by Orb Emerald
“An internet relationship is a relationship between people who have met online, and in many cases know each other only via the Internet. Over 17% of marriages start through online dating. According to the Statistic Brain Research Institute, 1 in 5 relationships and a little more than 1 in 6 marriages begin online. About 17% of marriages and 20% of relationships begin online. The research shows that couples who met online were more likely to have higher marital satisfaction and lower rates of marital breakups than relationships that began in face-to-face meetings.” -Google
Online romantic relationships are not for everyone. Many people come online to indulge in art, writing, music and a multitude of other interests and prefer to be single. At the same time many are looking for intimate friendships and some for love. This is a special article about love just in time for Valentine’s Day.
There are numerous ways to meet that special person online. From dating sites to simple encounters in the vast array of programs and activities found online. Basically, getting involved in online communities will open up the opportunity to meet a wide variety of wonderful people. In this story the couple met in virtual reality, which is a 3d, artistically designed, computer generated, virtually real environment.
Some of you may already know this very sweet couple and will enjoy learning more, and if you haven’t met, here is their introduction…
Meet Precious Holman: “I am an administrative professional in RL. I love animals and collect realistic looking stuffed ones, especially primates. I love to watch criminal forensic shows for how they unravel the ‘whodunnit’ mysteries with all kinds of evidence, and am passionate about 3D animated stories.”
…and this is Jake Holman: “I worked in the Coal Mines in Kentucky, retired from the U.S. Navy, then drove a truck, was a parts manager at a Chevy dealer, and now I manage 3 stores. I like to go for drives, find new places to eat, help out at the ‘Senior Citizens Center’ sometimes by calling Bingo (when they call me to help). I’m up for most things that are fun for me to do. When they stop being fun I move on to something different.”
He added, “I like building a sim. I like my wife and going dancing. I like exploring and going out into the open sims and shopping, seeing what I can get to make my life better. I like to fly planes, ride boats, make underwater habitats to swim around in and see different fish and items. I love meeting the wonderful people that live in and visit DigiWorldz.”
Jake remembers the beginning of his online experience and it went like this… “In the late 80’s the U.S. Navy started gearing up for computers in just about every way possible. I was in the right place and got a lot of training and became an instructor in how to use the different software that the U.S. Navy was using. Basic was fun on my first Coco 64k computer from Radio Shack.
“I came online when it was new and not much was happening but it moved very fast. My first online experience was in a strictly text oriented place called TalkCity. I had a room called StrongKisses. I laugh now because it was just a name but people came to see what was happening. After that I moved to a place somewhat like SL that introduced me to avatars called RLC. Then someone talked me into visiting SL. I didn’t like it at first because it seemed too complicated. That is where I met my now virtual wife and stayed there with her for 11 or 12 years.”
For Precious, her computer adventures began this way. She said, “Had my first Apple IIC sometime in the early 90’s. Started with AOL back in the day on a dialup.” When asked how she met Jake she answered, “Met my love in 2009 when I was working for a now defunct, but then infamous, virtual estate in SL. I was a web designer and property assistant and he was a new tenant wandering the sims. He found me at a barn grooming a pony that had been put there specifically to keep me off the riding bull championship, lol. The rules forbid the help from mixing with the customers, but the magnetic draw was not to be denied – we broke all the rules and he is so worth it (smiles)!”
Jake recalls, “I had just moved to this Estate that had all kinds of things to do in SL. It was costly compared to other places but the activities were wonderful. Parties, dances, water to fish and have boats in, airports to park your plane and go flying. It was a great place except you couldn’t terraform the land.
“Down from me was a public area with a barn with animals in it. I was there looking around trying to find out how to ride a horse and I noticed this beautiful woman down by one of the horses. I waited around to see if some guy was going to show up. So I was playing with this bird when she came out of the barn, then I made my move.
“I chased her for 3 months just to talk to her but couldn’t get a date. I would put stuff on my sim and tell her about it so she would come and look at it. Finally she went out with me and we went dancing and had a wonderful time. She eventually moved in with me but wouldn’t marry me. I’m thinking it took me over a year before she said yes and then cancel it. At last we got it together and had a great wedding planned and it seemed she wasn’t going to show up. Everybody told me to relax she would be there, and then right before time to walk down the isle she showed up. She has made my life worthwhile and exciting for 12 years this month.”
The things that keep them coming back to virtual and to one another are: Flying planes and talking, riding boats and talking, sitting at the lake and fishing and talking, going out dancing and talking to each other and others in local chat, and going shopping. Jake explains, “When we go shopping I just follow her as she shops. (laughs) Sometimes I build and terraform and she supervises and we talk. We also go to beaches and places that we can explore.”
There are a number of ways to get involved and nurture what may become a long term relationship. A few of things you can do to promote your love connection are:
- Communicate daily to maintain your connection. …
- Get to know each other really well to build your relationship. …
- Follow each other on social media, or in other online programs and be active. …
- Be honest with your partner at all times. …
- Learn each other’s daily schedules so you feel part of each other’s lives.
“Online dating offers a number of ways to get to know a potential date before meeting in person. Such computer-mediated communication allows for safe and convenient interaction, without much risk or time commitment. A new paper suggests partners who meet online are more likely to be compatible than those who meet in person. The paper adds to a growing body of research suggesting marriages that start online are stronger and last longer than relationships that start offline.” –https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201404/pros-and-cons-online-dating
Precious and Jake are both very experienced in the virtual realm and find a lot of enjoyment sharing their lives together while getting involved with the ins and outs of creating their little niche in OpenSim. Visit them at the “River Boat -Dancing & Bar-” hop://login.digiworldz.com:8002/Crystal%20Waters/12/492/23. For more information contact Precious & Jake Holman.
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